13 Best Sex Toys for Beginners to Try in 2023, According to Experts

This sleek vibrator wand is great for beginners as it’s lightweight, easy to use, and offers many different vibration and intensity settings. In fact, you can choose from a whopping twenty different patterns and eight intensity levels, making it easy to find what you like—not to mention, it’s fully waterproof and whisper-quiet. Plus, it’s also a clear customer favorite, boasting over 17,000 five-star ratings on Amazon. “This thing is small but mighty, and delivers excellent stimulation,” says one reviewer. Other shoppers love that it’s great for beginners, with another one writing: “Its extremely easy to use if you've never had one before.”

A remote-controlled sex toy is a great option if you want to try out a sex toy together with your partner—and you can’t go wrong this pick from We-Vibe. The Chorus vibrator not only provides dual stimulation for both parties, it can also be controlled by a touch-sensitive remote control that your partner can squeeze to adjust the intensity of the vibrations. (You can control it through an app on your phone, too). Not to mention, it’s waterproof and comes with a sleek charging case.

This highly-rated vibrator from Lelo is designed to stimulate your G-spot with its perfectly curved and flattened tip, offering eight different vibration patterns powered by extra-strong motors. Not only is it waterproof and easy to clean, it’s also rechargeable, with a long-lasting battery.“The best toy I’ve ever owned,” writes one Amazon reviewer. “High-quality silicone, easy-to-use buttons, and it’s rechargeable (and I get good use out of single charge). It’s practically silent too!”

If you’re looking for targeted clitoral stimulation, you’ll love the Zumio—it delivers precise stimulation with its small but powerful tip, which, unlike your traditional vibrator, rotates instead of vibrates to mimic the movement of a finger. Not only does it offer eight different speed options and adjustable intensity based on pressure, it also comes in several different models, all of which feature unique tips and handles that deliver pleasure differently. Reviewers love its unique stimulation, with one shopper raving that it’s “powerful, waterproof, lightweight, and easy to get to hard-to-reach spots.”

Designed to fit over your finger for easy pleasure at your fingertips, this small-but-mighty and beginner-friendly finger vibrator offers 10 different modes of vibration, making it easy to explore what you like. It’s also waterproof and comes with batteries—not to mention, it comes at an affordable price. “The vibrations are fairly strong, it fits on the finger well and is easy to use. For the price you can't really go wrong,” writes one reviewer.

If it’s penetration you’re after, try a silicone dildo, which Laino recommends as silicone feels like skin—leading to a more realistic experience. Dildos are often less intimidating to sex toy newbies compared to some of the kinkier options, she adds. This 7-inch curved dildo is waterproof with a handy suction cup—plus, you can also add in a bullet vibrator at its base to maximize the pleasure. One reviewer who rated it five stars raves that it has a nice feel that’s “not too hard or too soft.”

Let’s be real, vibrators can get super pricey. When you’re first starting out it’s all about experimentation, so if you don’t want to dish out the extra dollars, go for something more affordable to figure out what feels the best to you. The Wanachi Mini vibrator is a good place to start. It’s waterproof, bendable, and offers multiple speeds, says Laino—all at an affordable price.

A vibrating cock ring gives him a stronger, harder erection by sending blood flow to the penis, while the vibrations target your clitoris for extra stimulation, Laino says. This affordable pick is quiet, made of soft silicone, and has five varying speeds—perfect for couples! “The different vibration settings are an awesome feature—each setting has its purpose which makes a great experience for both parties,” writes one shopper. “The ring was not too tight and the soft silicone made it comfortable to use. Clean up is easy and charging was super quick. Definitely recommend!”

If you want penetration and clitoral stimulation at the same time, a rabbit vibrator is a good option, Kerner says. This one is soft, quiet, and waterproof—not to mention, it offers both internal and external stimulation with a whopping 36 different vibration modes. It also has two motors for extra power. “This vibrator is well made, sleek design, and true quality,” writes one reviewer. “The vibrations are very strong and the modes are sure to satisfy anyone’s needs.”

The Womanizer has a suction cup-like head that stimulates your clitoris using air technology with adjustable intensity. That ends up creating “a really unique sensation similar to oral sex with a tongue,” O’Reilly says—but no partner needed! Place the toy near or around the head of your clitoris, she says, or you can position it all around the vulva and give the fourchette—the thin fold of skin at the back of your vulva—some love.

It’s not a bad idea to start with something small if shopping for a sex toy feels overwhelming, O’Reilly says, which is why she recommends a massager like this, which reviewers say is easy to use and “packs a small punch.” Its computer mouse-like shape is pretty much as innocent-looking as they come, and it has five intensities and four vibration patterns with a quiet motor to keep the intimidation factor low. Bonus: You can take it in the shower since it’s waterproof. Reviewers love that “it packs a punch!

This vibrator is tiny but mighty, Kerner says. The Fin slips over your fingers and helps you engage in a little self-love with your hands and then some, thanks to its three different speeds. “My favorite part of this is how easy it is to use with my partner. Unlike other toys that are bulky, this can actually fit by tucking the sides for oral or various positions,” one Amazon reviewer writes.

If you prefer to go with a classic toy, this is it. The original Magic Wand Massager has been a bestseller for years and is raved about for its strong stimulation—many women swear by it, Kerner says. This cordless, rechargeable version is pretty basic with four speeds and vibration patterns, but is just as powerful as the original. Bonus: It can double as a neck and back massager.

Bullet vibrators are often a good choice for beginners because they’re small with a decent vibrating power, Laino says. This nifty little toy has a tapered tip, so you can directly target different areas of your clitoris and vulva—packing a powerful punch when it comes to your orgasm. “The saying ‘small and mighty’ fits this perfectly,” writes one reviewer. “Love the color and design, great vibrations, and choice of speeds and rhythms.”

This vibrator from We-Vibe is a great couple’s toy—especially if you’re fans of a tantalizing tease. With an adjustable ergonomic fit, it can deliver dual stimulation with strong vibrations to both you and your partner. But the best part is that it can be controlled through a separate remote or even in the free We-Connect app, allowing you to deliver hands-free pleasure from anywhere—making it great for long-distance couples. One reviewer calls it a “magical device,” writing, “It’s small enough to not feel discomfort and really added some extra pleasure to all the right areas!”

If you’ve yet to wander into the world of anal stimulation, this is a good place to start. The T-shaped silicone butt plug is flexible, yet firm and slim for pleasurable insertion—just be sure to use it with a healthy amount of water-based lube. It also offers three vibration speeds and seven patterns once inserted, with one reviewer saying that the stimulation “feels incredible.”